I had a meltdown today folks. A serious one…crying, sobbing really. Today should have been the day that I could write in here and shout from the rooftops that I have reached a milestone. That I had lost 50 LBS! Today should have been a day of celebration and victory. Instead, I had to text my guys, who have been excitedly waiting for this as well, news of a gain. Instead I am here to say I gained .5 a lb. I know, in the grand scheme of things .5 lb is not much. It is really small potatoes and does not change the fact that I have lost 49 lbs. But it is not the news I wanted to share.
The crux of the meltdown came with the fear that perhaps this time really ISN’T different. That perhaps I have not grown, changed, or been healed enough, to go farther than I have before. I have never made it past 60 lbs in any single attempt at weight loss. Fear, disappoint, discouragement. My wonky thoughts were back in full force, screaming that I can’t do this! That I don’t have what it takes!
Faintly in the background I could hear Coach shouting that I am still in transition…this time IS different…you can Do this Thang! You are learning what is gonna work for you there. But those other voices were far louder. Most of all of me was feeling like, I am on a downward spiral. This is how my stalling out happened “the last time”. Small gain here, hold steady there, even a loss thrown in now and then. I don’t want to believe the voices that say I am giving up just like last time. That I am getting scared (of what I don’t know, but fear is there) and starting my slipping away.
Still in the background, I can hear Aaron saying things like, stay connected…I believe in you. You are making such an impact. But again those other voices were far louder.
I do not want those voices to win. I do not want fear to win again. But I have to admit, part of me is feeling great pressure. Between the fundraiser I wrote about and my own expectations it is feeling overwhelming.
Here is what Aaron said to me that really started to break through those other voices. All of my positive self talk was NOT working, when he said this (gosh Aaron, I hope you don’t mind that I publish your words so often, but you say such wise things that so many can be encouraged by)
“While hoping for the milestone, I wasn’t surprised about the gain. Not at ALL because I didn’t believe in you but because the stakes in this are continually being raised and I’m sure the enemy is on full alert doing whatever he can to stop this. You and your impact, Kim L are a fork in the devil’s eye because he stands opposed to the tidal wave of healing and goodness that you and your journey represent. The lies, self-talk, and other bullshit are all attempts to halt or divert you from the exponential impact you are having bringing heaven to earth. The devil is trying to put YOU in a box, silly him!!! This is war and it won’t be easy, but oh how much greater is HE that is within you than he that is in the world. Feel and believe that!”
Email is often a poor way to share an emotion, but as I read these words the first time and many times over today, I could feel the passion in his words…it is as if Truth was fighting to be heard in my head and heart, over the other wonky voices screaming in my head, all the way from GR. It was heard Aaron, loud and clear, and oh so true. I have been fighting soo hard to not box myself in. Working hard to not live in such a way that I am safe all the time. A life worth living involves risk and courage. I refuse to let someone else box me in, especially the slimy devil who is just out to protect himself! I refuse to give in to the bullshit lies! I just may need help deciphering the lies from truth from time to time.
Tonight I was talking to Teresa and she said something about not looking too far ahead. But just looking at today. It resonated. I have been looking at 178 lbs to go, 50 goals on my goal list-ok maybe not 50 but at least 25, I have been seeing the pressure of the fundraiser, wondering where my TBL video is gonna go, if not on the show, and what am I gonna do about a job!! That is a lot of pressure folks! Sooo I am gonna try this method of thinking and see how it works. For now…all I have to do is eat well and exercise today. TODAY. I can decide again tomorrow to go again. This reminds me of the scripture that says, “DO not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will take care of itself. Today has enough trouble of its own.” Perhaps I should try and follow the wisdom of the Bible for a change!:-)
I am grateful that I have friends willing to get loud for me, willing to fight for me when I cannot fight for myself, cuz I am just bogged down. I am glad that they don’t give up on me or think I am too much. Friends who are willing to just listen and understand like no other and who won’t let me take any shit from anybody! (thanks JG and AM for today!) The wonky voices are still there, but not as loud as the Truth voices anymore. I can fight for one more day…at least!
a world of unknown
set before me now
One step at a time
a choice to make. (what am I gonna do today, to make me feel proud?)
Christ before me
leading the way
Friends beside me
making sure I don’t stray (Thank God for His provision in this…He has set me up to win, how can I fail?)